Is it okay to ask family and friends for money instead of gifts?

We have huge medical bills right now (it can end up costing us 8-10 thousand when all is said and done) and I want to ask people who were already planning on giving us birthday and christmas gifts to give money instead. My husband thinks it would be inappropriate and I would offend people, but we REALLY need money, not lame gifts and toys.

Is it okay to ask family and friends for money instead of gifts?
I tell everyone in my family every year I either want a card, pre-paid credit card, or money. It just makes everyone's life easier - they don't have to think of what to buy me and I can buy what I like.





I am sure your family will respect your request.
Reply:I would mention it in conversation lightly. Try to make it humorous, like "Yeah, I need money more then I need a new (blank) for Christmas/my Birthday"





If you do end up getting a gift, see if you can return it for cash. If not, good luck.





I think your husband means it would be rude to ask for money because it's like assuming that person is going to get you something in the first place.
Reply:...i've heard of people asking for cash but only because they intend to donate it to their favorite charities. in fact, they specifically say so in the invitation.





other than that, i believe it would be tacky to request your friends and relatives for money gifts to cover your medical bills. what i would suggest is you subtly hint your desire and hope your friends can read you.



Reply:I'm sure you family/friends would understand...I would think that they would be helping you already...





Good Luck, I wish you the best!


-Nov